Can You Undo the Past?

"The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart; the less capable you are of loving in the present."

-Barbara de Angelis

You may not be able to undo what has happened in your past but you can let it make a difference in how you live in the future. You may not be able to undo the pain of the past but it doesn't have to still hurt. You may not be able to undo wrong choices but you can stop living with regrets. You may not be able to undo what others have done to you but you can let it go and move on.

There isn't a person on this planet that doesn't have something in their past that they would rather forget and some people don't forget. They hold onto it for dear life trying to figure out why, wondering how it's affected them now and wishing things would've been different.

If you took one hundred people off of the street and you each wrote your problems down on a piece of paper then threw them into a big box and then you reached into that box and you had to pick another person's problems; 9 times out of 10 you would wish for your old problems or your old life back.

When you think you've had it bad; trust me there are a lot of people who have had it a lot worse than you. Now that isn't supposed to make you feel better but it is supposed to put your life into perspective.

We've all had our share of heartache, betrayal, bad choices etc. But there are people that can't get beyond what has happened to them. The relive it as if it were yesterday. They point the blame finger so often that it's going to fall off and they can only see backwards.

The sad thing is that they have a choice. "If they don't wake-up they are going to live, dying." When bad things happen, you may not have had a choice in what happened, but you do have a choice in how you are going to deal with it.

You can let it make you stronger or break you down. You can dwell on it to the point of obsession or you can look at it and take from it the lessons you've learned. You can waste your time wishing things were different or you can make your life different from this point forward.

You have the power to take your thoughts in any direction you choose. If you keep looking in the rear view mirror how can you ever move ahead? Life isn't always fair, but what's fair about you continuing to torture yourself over something that's over, gone, finito, kaput, in the past?

Just for today get your head out of the past and enjoy your day. Just for today give yourself a break and don't look back, don't think of what if, if only and why.

Instead think of all that you have in your life to be thankful for. Look to your future without the past hanging over your head. Know that no matter what has happened you CAN move on and live a good life.

You can't undo the past but you can make ALL the difference in whether you let it destroy your future. You can't undo the past but you can chalk it up to a part of life, a part of life that may have been brutal, but a part that is dead and gone so bury it and move on.

Go out and enjoy your day instead of dreading each day. Go out with new eyes and see the world with a whole new vision. Go out and don't look back. There is a big world waiting for you if you only step out of the past.


About The Author
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Finding Happiness

How can we define the word "happiness", really? Each one of us has their own definition in finding it. Whether you're rich or poor and powerful or powerless, you want to be happy. Everybody wants to be happy, that's for sure. Some of the most common ways that people do to find it is through their finances, their relationships, their jobs as well as their health.

Yeah, there is no question about these things. But until when will that happiness last? With all of these, it will only last for a short period of time. And then, you're going to seek for another thing that makes you fulfilled. So, how can we find a true meaning of it? It seems that everyone is looking for it but doesn't really know what it is.

So, how about you? Do you know what true happiness is? Knowing happiness must start within. We should know what it is for us. After all, if you are looking for it, it would help you with what exactly you're looking for. Take some time and identify what it feels, looks and tastes like to you.

To be happy is like you're traveling to a place where you haven't visited yet. You don't know where to go. So you need a map to guide you. You need to create your own map or plan on how you're going to define it. It is useless to continue without any direction.You couldn't achieve what you want. The truth is, we must find our happiness somewhere else. And that somewhere else is within.

Sometimes we ask other people what it means to them. You always hear this phrase ? I'll be happy when?... When I get a good job, I'll be happy.

I'll be happy when I meet someone I love. These kind of feelings are based only on our external circumstances. If you base it on external circumstances, you'll continuously fail to find it. There will always be another job, another partner and so on. We strive very hard to find the shining moment in our life.

Sometimes we are doing our very best to have it, but how come we can't have it? We can't feel it in one click. Not all that we want can appear at once. We are still coping for some skill and techniques to achieve that one. We should know how to wait.

Take some vitamin S- smile. As you wake up early in the morning share that smile to everybody. Having a smiling face is a kind of blessing. In a simple way you share it to other people. This kind of magic can take away some of your depression as well as other people's.

You should always think of wonderful experiences that happened in your life. Eventually, you would realize what made you feel better, how you let go of some pain and how to make more positive experiences in your life. If you want to be happy, start doing things that you love in life.

And make sure that you are doing it with passion. You should know exactly what you're passionate about and why. And then you should live according to that passion. As you start to work on things that you are passionate about, you will find the true happiness in life.

About The Author
The author of this article,Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Let Amy help you find Happiness in Your Work Place. Click here to learn how to become a Happy Worker.